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Bedtime is a 2-hour war. What broke the cycle for you?

Started by Tanya G · 24 January 2026

9pm and he's wired, then he's up at 6 exhausted and dysregulated all day. We've tried earlier dinner, no screens after 7, the lot. Brain just won't switch off. At my absolute wits' end.

5 replies

Jen R

24 January 2026

Two things that helped us: a consistent wind-down ORDER (same steps every night) and magnesium after chatting to our GP. The predictability did more than the timing.

James C

25 January 2026

Weighted blanket + audiobook in the dark. The audiobook gives his brain one thing to land on instead of 47. Took a couple weeks to become the habit.

Dr_mum_ot

25 January 2026

OT here (and an ADHD mum). Look at the hour BEFORE the meltdown, not bedtime itself — often the dysregulation starts earlier and bedtime just shows it. Heavy work / proprioceptive input an hour before can take the edge off.

Tanya G

25 January 2026

The 'look an hour earlier' point just unlocked something. He's been doing screens right up til wind-down. Going to shift that. Thank you.

Rachel F

26 January 2026

Also: melatonin is worth a GP conversation if you're truly stuck. Not a first resort but it gave us our evenings back when nothing else worked.

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