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The meltdowns are killing me. Anyone else?

Started by Rachel F · 5 March 2026

I'm talking full-blown, screaming, throwing things, hitting walls meltdowns. Multiple times a day. I'm walking on eggshells in my own home. I love my kid but I'm scared of him sometimes. I feel so alone in this. Please tell me someone else understands.

3 replies

Jen R

5 March 2026

I understand. I've been there. The fear, the guilt about the fear, the exhaustion. You are NOT alone. Please know that meltdowns are not tantrums — they're a nervous system in overdrive. Your child isn't choosing this. And you're not failing. You're surviving something incredibly hard.

Michelle K

5 March 2026

If meltdowns are this frequent and intense, please talk to your paed about whether there are co-occurring conditions — anxiety, sensory processing issues, or ODD. ADHD rarely travels alone. Also: during a meltdown, your only job is safety. Not teaching, not reasoning, not consequences. Just safety. The learning happens later when they're regulated.

Dave T

5 March 2026

Mate, I used to sit in my car in the driveway for 10 minutes before going inside because I was dreading what I'd walk into. It does get better with the right support. OT for sensory needs + psych for strategies + maybe meds was the combo that reduced our meltdowns by about 70%.

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